A lesson in anger

  • By Martin ACTON
  • 29 Jul, 2016

The fence and anger

The fence : A story with a very important moral...

There was a young boy with a very bad temper.

The boy's father wanted to teach him a lesson, so he gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper he must hammer a nail into their wooden fence.

On the first day of this lesson, the little boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. He was really mad!

Over the course of the next few weeks, the little boy began to control his temper, so the number of nails that were hammered into the fence dramatically decreased.

Before long the little boy discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Then, the day finally came when the little boy didn't lose his temper even once, and he became so proud of himself, he couldn't wait to tell his father.

Pleased, his father suggested that he now pull out one nail for each day that he could hold his temper.

Several weeks went by and the day finally came when the young boy was able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
Very gently, the father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

"You have done very well, my son," he smiled, "but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same."

The little boy listened carefully as his father continued to speak.
"When you say things in anger, they leave permanent scars just like these. And no matter how many times you say you're sorry, the wounds will still be there.

Be careful with YOUR words. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei

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By Martin ACTON 21 Jul, 2017
You’ve probably heard “communication is key” before. And it’s true. Effective communication is absolutely essential to every relationship in your life, whether it’s in business, at work, or in your family. Today I want to focus on just one of these areas: Communication in the workplace.
If you work with other people, there’s a good chance you have experienced both good and bad communication. The benefits of great communication are endless. Good, clear, and honouring communication allows you to get more done in less time and it helps to cultivate a culture of respect.
On the other hand, a lack of communication (or poor communication) leads to stress, frustration, misunderstandings, dishonour, and it impacts the company’s bottom line.

An easy way to understand complicated people:
People can be complicated and hard to understand. Whether it’s your spouse, co-workers, clients, or children, confusion and miscommunications happen from time to time. The good news is there is an easy way to eradicate those communication breakdowns and create harmony instead. I want to point out a few different aspects of communication that are often forgotten or could use some improvement. As you read today, I don’t want you to think, “Oh, I never have that problem,” or “I’m a great communicator!” You may be a great communicator. But there is always room for improvement. As your communication skills increase, so will your income. So I want you to look for ways you can improve your communication today.

The tone of voice. You’ve heard, “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” Your tone of voice communicates either honour or disrespect. It communicates confidence or fear. Sometimes we don’t even realise the way we speak to others. So today, really pay attention to how you speak and how you respond to others. Are you honouring your superiors? Are you honouring those who are ‘below you’ in the company?

Nonverbal communication. 93% of communication is nonverbal. If you are sitting back, not smiling, with your arms crossed, your body language says, “I’m not interested in what you have to say. I don’t want to be here. I don’t want to listen to you.” If you are smiling, sitting forward, and getting involved in the conversation, it promotes good communication. The other person is more receptive, and it really pulls you into the conversation.

Clarify! Don’t assume you understand exactly what someone means. The phrase, “So what I hear you saying is…” will help you make sure you understand what the other person is saying. It causes you to listen carefully, and because you are recapping the conversation. If you don’t understand something, simply say, “Can you clarify that for me?” or “What do you mean by that?”

Follow up. Always follow up! Follow up is a key part of communication that, unfortunately, many people never do. But it’s as simple as sending an email to follow a conversation. This includes giving updates on your progress on projects or assignments you’re working on. When you follow up with your boss, managers, and co-workers, it keeps everyone in the loop and keeps them updated on the progress and it eliminates the need for them to track you down to find out where you are or what you’re doing. When the lines of communication are open within a team, productivity soars and it becomes a harmonious work environment.

Here’s the thing, Communication is one of the most important skills you use every single day. When you have poor communication skills, your success is severely limited. However, when you focus on constantly improving your communication skills, your success will continue to grow.
So today, I want you to find where you can improve your skills. If today’s letter highlighted any areas you feel could use some work, then don’t wait. You can start working on those things immediately. Remember, what you focus on, you get good at. Wherever there is an intensifying focus, you get more results. So if you see that your communication skills are lacking, really focus on improving them, and you will see results!
That’s it for me today. I hope this has helped you! If it has, would you mind passing it along to your friends, family, and co-workers? Print this out and pass it around your office today.
I would also love to hear your thoughts about today’s Blog! What are your biggest communication breakdowns? How do you deal with them? What have you found that has helped you improve your communication with others in your workplace? Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei www.martinactonaikido.com
By Martin ACTON 12 Jul, 2017
“What is the biggest challenge you have with people?”

The top answers were really interesting. They were dealing with betrayal, negative people, people not saying what they mean, and trusting people.
What I noticed about these answers is they all seem to be about other people. But the reason we have these challenges is actually not because of the other person. It’s because we think we can change people. That is so far from the truth!
Here’s what I know:

Many are called to lead, but very few will make the investment to learn how to deal with people. If you are reading this right now, it’s because you are called to step up as a leader in your company, family, or community. We won’t know who the few are until we see the results…
So you saw the top challenges people reported. And here is my answer to that…
Quit trying to change people! You cannot change other people. You can only change how you deal with people. Do not try to change your spouse, your kids, your co-workers, or your clients. Learn how to motivate their strengths and train up their weaknesses without condemnation.
You must begin to honour the people around you. Focus on building them up and creating good, harmonious relationships. Be part of a rare breed of people who are achieving success and wealth while honouring others! This means NOT trying to change people to be what YOU think they should be.
In fact, change starts with you.
The challenges you have with people are not because they can’t communicate or because they are negative. NO! The challenges you have with people are because of the way YOU deal with them. It’s the way you react to them, their issues, and their communication skills.
If you have conflicts with people in your office, family, church, or community, there is only one way that is guaranteed to fix it: Change how you deal with the people around you!
The reality is, people around you often reflect your attitude, your insecurities, and your issues. If you are suspicious, unfriendly, and condescending, you will find those traits all around you. You are a product of your environment.

So let’s go back to those challenges I told you about earlier, and I want to show you what I’m talking about…
Betrayal – Have you betrayed the people around you? Have you followed through and done the things you said you would do? Have you gossiped about them?
Dealing with negative people – Are you positive? Do you let negativity slip out of your mouth? Are you sarcastic, or are you supportive? Do you speak life or death? Do you speak excuses, or do you speak results?
People not saying what they mean – Do you always say what you mean? Do you sugar-coat the truth? Do you exaggerate or stretch the truth? Do you only tell people what they want to hear?
Trusting people – Are you trustworthy? Do people feel that they can trust you? Are you honest?
The point I want to make here is that it’s important to look in the mirror first. You can either blame all of your people problems on the people around you, or you can be one of the few who will step up and make the investment to increase your skills with people. And when you increase your people skills, you decrease your stress, save money, and increase your income.
And that, my friend, is something we could all use! So would you please take just a minute to share this message with the people around you? You can massively increase your influence in your company and community by simply forwarding this blog on to those people around you, co-workers, friends and family even your clients. I challenge you to share this with even just one person and see what an impact this will make. It might be just the thing the person needs to help them see a bigger picture. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 06 Jul, 2017
Today I want to tell you about something that will help you in business, in your career, in your family, and really every area of your life.
Because here’s the truth: Everyone likes to be encouraged and edified. Everyone likes to feel special and important. And when you bring this principle into your company or your home, you won’t believe the difference it makes!
What does it mean to edify someone? It means to build them up. To uplift and encourage them.
But it’s so much more than just saying nice things to someone. There is such a huge benefit, both for you and them. And it takes a certain level of leadership and maturity to recognise that benefit and to actually use this strategy in your circle of influence.
First of all, when you edify someone in your company, in your community, or in your family, you are building that person’s reputation. When you edify that person in public, you are positioning them as a leader, as someone others will follow. You are actually positioning other people’s perception of the person you’re edifying.
I want you to think about that for a minute. Imagine that you are a CEO, and you see Sue, the receptionist in your office, who is doing a really great job. She is on the front line – she is the first person your clients come in contact with, and she is quick and efficient, and she always honours your clients and does her best to fill their needs. So you decide to call Sue out and edify her in front of the other staff members in your office. You tell her what a great job she is doing, and that you really appreciate her dedication to helping the team. You tell your staff that Sue is a great example of the kind of leader you are looking for in this company.
What does that do for your employees? It causes them to see Sue as a leader in the company. It totally changes their perception of her. And who is she? She’s the receptionist! She is the voice of the company. And by edifying her, it causes the rest of the employees to want to be part of it.
What does it do for Sue, the receptionist? It gives her a reputation she wants to live up to! You just set her up as a leader in the company by encouraging the things you want to see more of. And guess what? She will continue to step into that role.
And what does it do for you? It positions you as a leader. It shows that you are someone who encourages and speaks highly of others. It creates a mutually beneficial relationship between you and the person you’re edifying.
When you cultivate an environment of encouragement and edification, people want to be there. When people work in a positive environment, they want to come to work, and they will work better and produce more results.
Have you ever seen a company where there is a lot of negativity, a lot of belittling, and a lot of gossips? It’s because the environment allows it. Edification changes the environment into a place where people are happy to be there. It creates a certain standard for that environment and gives people the proper frame of mind.
There’s no downside to edification. Seriously, who doesn’t want to create more harmony, more productivity, and more effective teamwork inside of your company or family?
A lot of people won’t edify others because they are so full of pride. But edification is not about building the other person’s ego. It’s about positioning. Even if you can’t stand the person… Even if they drive you crazy sometimes… Even if you could do a better job of it… Edify them! It’s not about you; it’s about positioning them and pulling the best out of them.
Whether you are the CEO of the company or you were hired yesterday; whether you own the company or you work in the mailroom, this is something you can start practising today. Edify your boss, your co-workers, your clients, and your prospects.
And it’s not limited to work situations. Edify your family! Edify your spouse in front of your children. Edify your children in front of their siblings. Edify your kids’ teachers in front of your kids.
You will be amazed by the changes you will see in the people around you. You will not recognise your work environment after you start creating this kind of culture. I’m telling you, by creating an atmosphere of edification, you are setting yourself and your company or family up for outrageous success.
It’s no secret that our world is full of negativity. All you have to do is look around you. But my friend, we can do something to change that! Imagine if you lived in a culture of honour, encouragement, and edification. Imagine how great it would be if everyone around you used this very simple strategy to create better relationships, to build bigger profits, and to expand their influence. How awesome would that be?! Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 30 Jun, 2017
If I took you for a coffee, sat you down and asked you “What do you want in life?” I bet I would get one of two answers, the first would be a confused look, and you would tell me you did not know! The other answer would be that you wanted a good job, nice title, a car, money in the bank and a decent place to live.
Let’s take a closer look at the second answer above. If I could wave a magic stick and “Hey presto your wish is granted”. How long would you be happy for? A week, a month a year? The problem is these things come and go and soon we are unhappy again. Why?
Having those things are wonderful, but what you really want is the feeling that those things generate within you. Inner peace, contentment and gratitude.

In society, we define success by the things we have rather than by the people we’ve become. Rather that measuring our progress by how many lives we are influencing. We gauge it by how much money we are making, how fast we are getting promoted and how many latest gadgets we own. Is it any wonder people are so miserable?

There is nothing wrong with having nice things. I love being surrounded by beautiful things. The furniture in my dojo is top quality. I love wearing good stylish clothes and driving a nice reliable car. I made a commitment to myself about a year ago and that is to go through life first-class. I want to be rich! This starts with a feeling of being rich, then I will become rich. How do I know? I did the same thing when I started Aikido. I wanted to be the best of the best so I spent time, money and a lot of effort being with the Top Masters in Japan and learning from them. I am one of the highest level instructors in the world!
I am not saying this to brag just that when I put my mind to doing something, I do it or die trying.

Everyone should have a beautiful life. This is the purpose of life, to grow to maturity and become Master over the material world. However, I have never let my possessions define me. You will run into trouble when you let what you have form the basis of who you are and your identity in the world. Because if you lose those things you loose yourself. Do not become a slave to things. Make the most of life every day. Who you are becoming is far more important than what you own.

The impact you are having on your teammates, customers and loved ones by the positive example you model is far more important than the money you make. If your focus is on making money, then your focus is off doing great work! This is the very thing that will make you more money.

If you really want to be extraordinary, focus on becoming an extraordinary person!
It is not possible to grow your interior world and not see a corresponding growth in your exterior world. So make working on yourself job number one. As you awaken your true nature within and become a more confident, creative and a world class person, your interactions with others cannot help but get to a whole new level of greatness.

You have a natural inner leader within that will show you how to find your true nature. All you have to do is make your relationship with it stronger each day. When you were a child you knew your true nature. You were awake to the call of your life to make a mark, to realise big things and live life as a glorious adventure. Now is the time to get back in touch with your natural inner leader. Leading from the inside out, so that your bigness can be seen is the DNA of all enduring excellence. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton Sensei
By Martin ACTON 25 Jun, 2017
Expect winning results but do nothing, that is how most people go through life. To be a top world class athlete requires training and strengthening yourself to perform at extraordinary levels when you step up to perform. You need such internal power that you feel unstoppable, invincible and unbeatable, to face the relentless pressure and unpredictable changes that will try to destroy you. Michael Jordan is the best basketball player the world has ever seen. Was he born shooting baskets? No. He trained harder than anyone else to reach that level. How many people in business train hard before they go to the job?

A world class organisation consists of people that give personal excellence in all that they do. They perform at a first class level every day, regardless how they feel. They are committed to being the best of the best! Results talk for them, and they produce the results in a positive, fun and enjoyable way for all concerned.

As you and the other people you work with, come to understand that you have a natural born leader inside you waiting to be let free, you will start to perform at your best. When you all do your absolute best together, then your organisation will start and become its absolute best!

Illustriousness, greatness and eminence on the outside start from within. Before you unleash your peak performance at work or at play you first have to feel like you are doing that. You need world class mental toughness inside you, to face the competition and outclass them. To bring out the best in your co-workers you first have to bring out the best in yourself. You can’t lead others if you can’t lead yourself.

Decide to devote yourself to becoming so strong internally that you appear to others that you are failure-proof! Clean up your negative beliefs & false assumptions about the sort of leader you can become. Constantly strive to enrich your character, make your intentions purer and your actions better. Exercise to maintain a healthy body full of energy and radiate vitality.

To be the best of the best also requires you to clear up the emotional dimension of your life. You need to let go of the resentments you may be carrying and dump the baggage from your past. (If you give me 30 minutes I can help you eliminate the crap) This stuff is holding you back and preventing you from attaining your greatness! Also, a world class person works on his / her spiritual life, this is the connection to be polished so that you donate your best years at work to doing deeds that will last beyond your death. Life is over in the blink of an eye. We need to think about the legacy we leave behind, not on our death bed but NOW! That way you get to live your life backwards and make sure that it has a good ending. Instead of being on your death bed crying for more time! You have so much potential, wake up. This life is not a rehearsal. You are only here once and you cannot get the time back. So make the best of it. Get out of the coma. Realise what is most important in life. Actualize your potential, show leadership do your part to make the world better through the work you are doing and the person you are becoming.

At birth, you received fabulous talents, original insights to help improve things, and a corresponding responsibility to grow and express that genius over the course of your life. To elevate the lives of others around you in the process. Many people never figure this out and so they die unfulfilled. Every day you are alive, is another chance to push the envelope and stretch yourself to the maximum and to give everything all that you have. Hold nothing back. Then you can face the Creator and say I gave life, my all, with very few regrets. This is your gift back to Him. :) I say this is a smart way to live. What do you think? Until next time I wish you peace love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 13 Jun, 2017
You have one life to live and the free will to choice how you live it. It is important to remember this is not a dress rehearsal, you only live once, so why not decided that from today on you will do something every day to make your life and the lives of those around you better? Enjoy life and make each day a positive experience for everyone that you come into contact with. This will produce such amazing results for you that you will be amazed.

One thing I am going to do from now on is to stop finding other people's weak points. This is focusing on the negative and I have found it does not help to constantly tell people they are doing something wrong. From now on I am going to focus on the strengths and for one fault I see, I will try to find three things the person does well. If I can’t find three things to encourage the person I will keep quiet.

I would like to encourage you to become spectacular in all that you do, be it at work, at home or a play. Give your absolute best and you will succeed at whatever you put your mind to doing.

An extremely important question to keep asking yourself is “Who are you becoming as a human being?” The external things in life are nice but if you chase after the “bling, bling” only, you will end up an empty shell, lonely, and unfulfilled. By focusing on how you can contribute to improving things and helping as many people every day as you can, will result in you having lived a full, generous and fulfilling life, with no or very few regrets. That is a life lived well.

I would also like to encourage you to dream big and to practice visualising yourself as the person you most want to be. When we were children we loved to imagine things. I loved being a cowboy when I was four. Then a soldier, a police officer at ten. An action hero that could stop all the bad guys. Then I went to high school and was told to grow up and stop day dreaming. I stopped dreaming of things the way I wanted them to be and accepted that I was just an average “Joe Blow”. Then, fortunately, I left school, Northern Ireland and went to England, the USA and Japan. There I learnt to dream again.

I saw myself becoming a world class Aikido Master! I determined I would pay whatever price was necessary to bring this to pass. Consequently 29 years later I am the person I saw all those years ago. I work every day challenging myself and my students to improve our skills and I wake up every morning excited and full of anticipation knowing I will find a new technique or some way to help my students improve. Their growth and improvement gives me so much satisfaction. I love my job. I love my dojo and every one of my students. I want you to find your calling, purpose and meaning in life. So you can experience happiness, clarity of mind and inner peace. I believe every person on this wonderful planet wants to thrive. This means to be peaceful happy and successful. We were born to live! Not to just get by and exist.

Set your expectations high for yourself and others. Step up to the plate and put it all on the line. Hold nothing back, give it all. Pay the price for what you want, then you can be free to enjoy it. Don’t take the shortcuts, the quick easy way or the fast way. This will mess you up. Give more than is asked and let people know, you are the real deal, the genuine original you. When you give your word to do something then that thing will be done. Come hell or high water you will do it or die trying. This is a strong person and others will respect, listen to you and follow you on the path of life. Your conscience, sixth sense or your instincts will guide you. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success.
Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 06 Jun, 2017
Everyone feels self-doubt, nervous and afraid when they start new things. A key to getting over these emotions is just to feel the fear and do what you have to do anyway. Realise that to be a “winner” is nothing more than rising every time you fall. The only person who fails in life is the person who never even tries. That person lets his / her fear get the better of him or her. So they stick with their excuses. There is no shame in failing! Some of the greatest people in history failed many times but they kept getting up.
In baseball, the famous Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times. Albert Einstein couldn’t talk until he was four. Beethoven’s music teacher said, “As a composer Beethoven is hopeless!” Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team when he was a sophomore.
One of the greatest American Presidents that ever lived failed time after time, after time but he kept fighting and moving forward. Have a look at his track record and see if you can guess who he was.
failed in business at twenty-two years old
was defeated for the state legislature at twenty-three
failed again in business at twenty-four
coped with the death of his sweetheart at twenty-six
had a nervous breakdown at twenty-seven
was defeated for congressional nomination at thirty-four
got elected to Congress at thirty-four
lost the renomination for Congress at thirty-nine
was defeated for the Senate at forty-six
got defeated for a position of vice presidency of the United States at forty-seven
Was defeated again for the Senate at forty-nine
Who was this man? It was Abraham Lincoln, he was elected the president of the United States when he was fifty-one.

So what can we learn from these people? Well, The lesson I got from looking at these people is that I have to go into my fears and I will shine. An amazing thing happens when you experience a situation that makes you insecure, scared, uncomfortable and instead of folding like a deck of cards, you stay strong, grounded and do the thing you have to do, you realise that fear is mostly a hallucination. Also, life will reward you for your bravery, because on the other side of the fear door you will find fantastic treasures, gorgeous gifts, that include confidence, wisdom, and personal growth. So go into your fear. Take it slow and steady and watch the success you want so badly start to show up when you need it most. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 02 Jun, 2017
The quality of a family, group, organisation or business is determined by the quality of the relationships between the individuals. If you want to be the BEST in the world you need to build extraordinary relationships. Everyone has something they can teach you, so it is crucial that you do not have a condescending attitude towards others. Especially this is true of upper and middle management. Looking down on a person because he is doing blue collar work is unacceptable. The janitor is just as important in an organisation as the top CEO. Why? They both have roles that need to be filled in order for the organisation to run smoothly. If there were no janitors just think what a mess the place would be. In World class companies, the people know the names of each individual. For a Manager not to know the names of his staff is appalling and this person needs more training or to be replaced.

I met this retired gentleman, his name was Mr Sasaki he was the General Director for a very successful company in Japan. Mr Sasaki was a real powerhouse in business and his standards were platinum level. He never wasted a moment. Everything he did was focused, goal oriented and constantly on the lookout for ways to improve things. The thing that really impressed me about him though, was the fact that he knew the names of every person in his office building. And he treated every person as if he or she was the most important person in the Universe, not just the world. No one was insignificant to Mr Sasaki.

He taught me a very valuable lesson that I would like to share with you. The deeper your relationships, the stronger your leadership. Imprint on your brain the word HUMAN. This is a very useful acronym.

H. is for Helpfulness. To become a master and a true leader, always do more than you are
paid to do. Don’t just give lip service and go through the motions of serving others, really
put your whole self into what you do. This will make an impact that other will never
forget. Many workers are in a world of their own. They have become desensitised to
seeing the importance of customers and treat them casually, abruptly or ignorantly. This
is unacceptable in world class organisations. We should always be as helpful as we
possibly can.

U. is for Understanding. World class people are masterful at understanding people. This is achievable by developing the skill of listening deeply. Talk less, listen more! Make the other person feel that the world has stopped because you have a genuine fascination for what that person is saying. Give 100% concentration to what words are coming from the other person. This will make you stand way, way out from the crowd. Going the extra mile means to forget about what you want to say, to impose your thinking on others.Really listening to another person is the highest compliment you can pay someone. You honour a person by giving them fabulous listening. Everyone on the planet has a deep hunger to be understood.
M. is to remind you to Mingle. Get out there and connect with the other workers and network with your clients, customers and bystanders. People will always do business with people they like! Be out there making the people feel important, appreciated and
cared for. if they are looking for something, go and get it for them. take them to what it is they want. If you don’t have it try and find out when the item will be back in stock. If you don’t sell the item, recommend a place they can get it. This is real service. They will remember this experience and will not only come back to do more business with you, but they will tell others how great you are.

A. is for Amuse. Don’t come across as too serious. People like to shop to reduce stress to feel good and to forget their problems. Laugh and have some fun with the customers this is not wasting time or being unproductive. Actually, this will boost your productivity.
When you have fun the energy of the whole company raises to higher and higher levels. Stress goes down, fewer people get sick, attendance improves and people become happy.

N. is for Nurture. Be genuinely and awesomely nice. This shows you are a strong person. A lot of people mistake being nice as being weak. This is wrong education. Really strong people are balanced between being compassionate and courageous. Put relationships first! Be tender and tough. Always treat people with kindness and respect. Develop your relationships, smile, give a caring gesture and use positive words. Leave each person you come into contact with better, happier and more engaged than they were before they met you!

You will see soon that this way of living will really help your career and your life. If you really take care of people the money will come to you automatically. Help others to become super successful and they will do the same for you. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 25 May, 2017
Give the best of yourself to others and you will get the best out of them. Many people live the opposite they get what they can out of others and then either give a little back or just simply move on. There are three ways to relate. The first is the “baby way” this is the take, take, take and take some more. The second way is “the teenager way” I will do something for you, as long as you do something for me, and it has to be the same value as the thing I did for you. Other wise I am not going to do it. The third way is “The mature way”. Here you put the other person’s needs before your own. You stretch your limitations and give the best of yourself regardless of how you feel. Which way do world class leaders relate?

What are we in business for? If you ask this question to ten different people you will get ten different answers. Some will say money, power, freedom, responsibility etc. My answer is it is all about people. An enterprise is a human venture that brings people together around a marvellous dream that inspires them to express their talents to the fullest and to contribute rich value to those clients or customers they serve. It is all about relationships and human connections. Many companies sacrifice relationships chasing after results. But the amazing thing is that the stronger the bonds between you, your co-workers and the customers you work for, — the stronger the results.

Regardless what business you are in, business is a vehicle to help other people.To engage employees so that they realise their human potential, and to help your customers achieve their highest aspirations. Business is about making money sure. I personally love money and all the fantastic things I can do with it, but when you deliver more value than anyone could possibly expect, the inevitable result has to be people beating a path to your door.

By doing good you not only find a deeper meaning to what you are doing but also the profits flowing to your organisation will blow your socks off. The more value you create for your constituents from co-workers to clients the more your organisation will see incredible financial success. All you have to do is treat people well and be as helpful in every possible way and success will be the inevitable result. Smart people keep it simple.

This is the best time is all of history to be alive! Why? The world is changing into a new time and way of doing things. The old ways are broken and don’t work anymore. We are entering into a completely new way of doing business. Making way for progress human growth and the ability for everyone to live the life of their dreams. If you continue doing the old ways you will suffer, fail and become extinct like the dinosaurs who couldn’t evolve as conditions changed.

If you want your company to become the best of the best in the world then you need to grow your staff and teach them to think and act in new ways to meet the changing times we are living in. If you want your brand to become a globally beloved brand you need to teach your people that relationships and people matter, regardless of position everyone wants respect and to be treated with dignity. We all have different ways we can contribute to making things better.

Every day we need to remind, motivate and inspire our people that to win you need to help others win! A part of this is doing all you can do to build a high-performance culture in your organisation. One where everyone knows how excellent he or she can be. As a leader part of your job now becomes unleashing the greatness in people who have never seen the greatness within themselves. You don’t have to be a manager or to have a fancy position to awaken the best in your co-workers and to have a wonderful influence on your company’s culture. Build platinum relationships, dedicate yourself every day to expressing your absolute best and making a fantastic difference in other human lives. If the people around you are engaged, excited and working at the highest level of their abilities, your organisation will excel not only in times of prosperity but also during days of hardships. Until next time I wish you peace, love and Success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 18 May, 2017
In this life we all have problems. No matter how rich, smart, or powerful a person is, we ALL have our share of problems. So if you can accept this as a fact of life, then you won’t suffer as much as you will, if somehow you think only you have problems.

If you face a problem you have several options. You can ignore it, worry about, or solve it.
Worrying and ignoring it will not work in most cases, so the best thing to do is to solve it.
As I have said before, if you get knocked down seven times, pick yourself up eight times. Persist until you succeed. Be bold, strong and commit to success, failure is not an option. Put your focus, attention and all your energy on your goal and let everything else just pass on by. Obstacles measure how badly you really want something.

The poor, the weak, the average person gives up as soon as they see a problem. The rich, the strong and the world class person never quit. Whatever comes good or bad they deal with it and get on with what they have to do.

The strong person responds rather than reacts when turbulent times come. Weak, poor people panic when something happens that they don’t like, want or know how to deal with.
On an average day, they arrive at work and waste all their time being reactive, confused and being part of the problem instead of rising above the confusion, showing leadership and finding the solution to the problem.

Make a difference starting now. From today when you go to work, make it a habit to stop reacting to challenges and become a Master at responding to them. Act with dignity and elegance when the pressures build. Focus on what you can do and don’t waste time worrying about the things you can’t.

Take the initiative. Just start things. Be a go-getter. Produce results while the others are standing like sheep waiting to be led. When it looks like all is collapsing around you, it is normal to feel fear. Just feel the fear and do what you can anyway. Keep moving. Stay calm your intuition will guide you if you listen and do as it directs you. You have the power, know how and ability inside just relax and let it out. Block out all the negative overwhelming distractions and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Success will turn up sooner or later. It is not up to you to decide when it will come.

To lead requires us to be uplifting and inspirational not necessarily with the words we speak, but combining our words and actions. Shine a light on the people you work with and remember everyone needs to be appreciated. Everyday encourage the efforts of others, look for the good and applaud even the smallest positive things you find in a day.

Most people who try to lead make the mistake of criticising and correcting others when they mess up. But this is not smart. A great leader is too busy applauding others when they do things right. A lot of people don’t know how to accept genuine praise. They very well may scoff at it, reject it abrasively or just try to escape from the situation. How the others respond is not of concern. Our main focus as leaders show be to offer sincere praise and to deliver it as best we can, and constantly look for ways on how to deliver it better in the future. Become a passionate celebrator of great work that your fellow workers are doing. Recognise, appreciate and praise excellence. You do not need a badge, title or others permission to do this. Just do it. You will transform your workplace, your co-workers and your own life 100 fold for the better if you apply these ideas. If you do this and somehow things get worse for some unknown reason. you still win because you have made good karma and this good karma can only come back to you.
Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
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