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Aikido 7-Week Anti-Bullying Course for High School Students
Bullying is a serious problem. Lets stop it!
Are you or a loved one being bullied?
Do you feel nervous, insecure and afraid around others?
Are you worried about being assaulted verbally / physically?
Would you like clear procedures to solve your problems?
Do feel isolated, lonely and wondering why they don't like you?
Is there a person you can talk to about your problems?
Would you like skills to stop others attacking you?
Attend our Aikido 7-week Anti-bullying course and empower yourself with knowledge, skills and a process to deal effectively, efficiently and practically with the bully. Meet new people, make new friends, and discover the real power within you, at the Martin Acton's Aikido Institute. The price of the course is £50.
For more information on when lessons are please check with our schedule.
What to do if the school doesn't resolve the bullying problem
If you have already complained to the school, find out what your next steps are
Unfortunately many parents find that bullying continues after they have asked the class teacher, head of year or head teacher to sort it out.
Contact the governors about bullying
After a written complaint to the head, the next step is to contact the chair of governors. You can get his/her name from the school office. Write to him/her at the school address. Explain the background and enclose any letters between you and the head. Ask for an immediate investigation. It's unlikely that all governors will be made aware of your complaint.
This is because many issues are dealt with as 'Chair's Action' and the chairman may hope to get the matter resolved with the head teacher quickly. The other reason not all governors will be made aware of the complaint is because the matter may escalate into an exclusion of the bully and if that happens the bullied child's parents will have a right of appeal and there need to be some governors without prior knowledge of the case.
When you complain to the chairman, send a copy of your complaint to your local councillor and ask for a meeting with him/her. Political parties have representatives on school governing bodies and if your local councillor is not one of them, he/she will have contacts who are.
Ask for a copy of your child's school record
The governors have a legal obligation to provide this within 15 school days, excluding weekends and holidays, but you will be asked to pay for photocopying. (There is further advice on getting a copy of the record in the section on that topic). This is also the time to start asking questions of other parents. Your child may not be the only bullying target and you may find other parents are keen to back you up in your complaint.
Complain to the LEA
If this doesn't work, the next step is for you to make a formal complaint to the Local Education Authority (LEA) and ask for an investigation to be carried out and a report issued. In fairness to LEAs, it should be said that where pupils are removed from one school to another due to bullying the LEA would not necessarily know about the problem unless parents tell them. They do not need to be involved in a school transfer unless there is an appeal for a place.
Ask the LEA how many other complaints of bullying have been reported to them involving the same school. Ask if the education welfare officer (education social worker) has been involved. She has to visit pupils whose parents have removed them and who are at home. This may prompt LEA officials into asking if the school has a problem if there have been a series of complaints.
Taking matters further
If you do not feel that your concerns have been properly investigated you can complain to the Local Government Ombudsman - who cannot investigate the internal workings of schools but can look at the LEA's role in investigating your complaint. Also make sure you contact your MP.
Your final recourse is to the Secretary of State, at Sanctuary Buildings, Great Smith Street, Westminster, London or at the DFE, Castle View House, East Lane, Runcorn, Cheshire, WA7 2GJ where your complaint will be dealt with by the Pupils and Parents branch. Officials can only order action to be taken if your child is still a pupil at the school, so if he/she has been removed, there is unlikely to be anything the Secretary of State will do.
If you feel your child has suffered the trauma of bullying and may find it difficult to return to mainstream school, you may want to find out more about Red Balloon. They provide an 'intensive care' full-time education for children aged between 9 and 18 who are unable to go to school because they have been severely bullied or who have suffered trauma. Moving schools because of bullying may be another last resort option to consider.
This information was fond at www.bullying.co.uk
It is a very good website and you will find useful practical tips to help you deal with this serious problem.
We offer Aikido Children's classes 6 days a week to build your child's confidence, teach him/her how to deal with bullies and inspire the child to set and achieve goals. Martin Acton's Aikido Institute, 100 Church Street Dromore BT251AA Tel:078-69402588
Dealing with difficult people
To deal with aggression and difficult people is not easy. Aikido teaches us to develop a positive consciousness. When someone is becoming agitated, confrontational and getting up in your face, what are you going to do?
How you think and deal with your thoughts is very important in Aikido. Everything begins with one thought. The more you have give & take with that thought the more it will lead you to a good or bad result.
How do you extend a positive mental attitude? This is a very popular question that Instructors get asked all the time.
You can do it many ways:
When you are very cheerful. We say you must be extending positive energy.
When you feel healthy. Oh, you must be extending positive energy.
When you are really motivated to do something. You are extending energy positively.
From another point of view. Some people look at it as energy flowing through a person when the person performs an activity, exercise or technique.
When you think a positive or negative thought you are extending energy. If you think negatively towards someone, yet at the same time smile at the person pretending to like him or her, the person knows your real thoughts because the person can feel the energy you are sending to him or her. So in reality, you are only fooling yourself. It is smarter to honestly let the person know there is a problem and to see if there is a way to resolve it together.
Be aware of your surroundings & people
If you are aware of what is going on around you and places that you might be attacked, it makes it easier for you to respond and deal effectively with an attack than if you are spaced out and thinking about something else.
Bullies want to catch you off-guard and hit, push or trip you to make you look stupid. Just relax and notice if there are some students hanging about in a group, if so be prepared to stop a punch, a shove or someone sticking his/her foot out to trip you.
We all have times when we get hit unexpectedly and that is ok. What you do next is what counts. I suggest you get up and get into the fight. The time for talking is over and you have to show the bully you are not afraid of him. Even if you lose the fight it doesn't matter you show people that you will not just let them assault you.
When I was in the first year in high school I had some older boys come and bullied me. They thought I was sensitive and unable to fight. I was in the gym one day and this bully came up and asked me if I knew his name? I said "No. I didn't know his name." He suddenly hit me in the stomach. I fell and the pain took my breath away. I lay on the ground and he smiled and told me his name and that I better remember it. After I got my breath back I stood up and went after him. I tapped him on the shoulder and when he turned around I hit him in the face as hard as I could. He fell down and was shocked at what I had done. He was a boxer and no one had ever knocked him down before. When he got up I asked him if he wanted to continue the fight? He didn't we shook hands and became friends from that point on.
The lesson I learnt from that experience was that there is a time to talk and a time to act.
Bullies Remember This!
Pulling someone down will never help you reach the top.
Be sure to taste your words before you spit them out. You may just say the wrong thing to the wrong person and find the consequences have a life long effect. No-one is invincible for ever.
13-year old kills himself because he was bullied at school
This is part of the suicide note he left.
Why would a 13-year old commit suicide?
Only a few weeks shy from turning 14, Daniel Joseph Fitzpatrick did something drastic that would forever alter the lives of those around him. He killed himself.
It was his sister, 17-year-old Kristen, who found him. He was hanging by his own belt. Parents Maureen and Daniel Sr. , were naturally overwhelmed with grief and misery. Nevertheless, they wanted to share this story. Turns out, young Daniel was constantly harassed, and this was apparently the only way he felt he could escape the pain.
The multiple pages of his suicide note would indeed answer questions regarding his harassment. Here’s part of the note the parents wanted to share:“… Anthony took it all out on me. He bullied me along with John, Marco, Jose, and Jack they did it constantly until I went into a fight with Anthony everyone stopped except John he was angry… I ended up fighting John and got a fractured pinkie.” Also known as Danny, he wrote how he was teased due to his weight, grades, and lack of supposed toughness compared to others. “I gave up. The teachers either didn’t do ANYTHING.”
Here’s Daniel’s dad on why he wanted to get this note out there:
“My son’s story is now out there for the world to see and for the world to know the pain that he went through. No child should have to go through what my son went through.”
His father continues on how poorly the school handled the situation:
“All I got was and all HE got was, ‘He’ll be fine. Is he in counselling? You have to try harder, Danny. These things will pass”
And for the parents of the bullying boys? The father doesn’t spare them either:
“You get to hold your children every night and every day for the rest of your lives and their natural lives. I don’t get that anymore. Your little monsters took that from me. And my wife. And his sisters. Danny was a kind, gentle little soul. He didn’t have a mean bone in his body… I just want to hear him say, ‘good morning, dad’ one more time and that way I could tell him ‘good morning’ and ‘I love you,’ which I did every every day.”
Hopefully the publishing of Daniel’s letter will bring attention to this serious problem of bullying and how it can have dire results when kids feel they have no other way out. They feel the only way to escape the torment is taking their own lives.
The two criteria that bullies use to choose their victims
Bullies choose their victims based on two criteria: safety and entertainment value. A child that will fight even if he is going to lose, or one that has protective elder siblings are unlikely to be targeted. It would not be safe for the bully to pick on them.
The children who don't respond, don't scream or cry or show a response are also the ones hardly ever bullied.
Just as babies like squeaky toys because it shows they can influence their world, bullies like the power of causing an effect.
Bullies prefer victims that are emotionally expressive, physically timid individuals with no allies or friends.
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