What you believe about life, people and yourself affects how you feel, how you do things and who you will become.
How did you come to believe what you do? Most people never stop to think about this question. It is important to understand because if you don’t then others can control you easily and maybe have you do things that you feel bad about.
There is a belief process and it starts when an idea or thought is implemented into a person’s mind. An authoritative figure makes a remark, a friend shares a thought.
“You are boring, incompetent, weak, slow, below average, evil!”
“ Money and religion are the cause of all problems.”
“All politicians are hypocrites.”
Whatever you believe you will find evidence to support that belief, so telling someone that what they believe is wrong, is a waste of time, because he / she has evidence to back up the belief. An alternative way is to ask the person is the belief resourceful or not? If it is keep it, if not let it go and replace it with another more resourceful belief. This results in less stress, not having to fight to prove something, and everyone goes away feeling better than if they got into a heated argument that could have maybe seriously damaged the relationship.
So how can we clean up our beliefs?
From time to time just stop and ask yourself, “What am I thinking about now?” “What am I listening to now?” We all have self-talk going on in our heads. We unconsciously play the same tape over and over again. You make a small mistake and forget something, and your ego jumps on you and tells you “You are stupid!” You accept this as a fact and you tell yourself “I am stupid!” this plays over and over subconsciously. How does this make you feel? Not good, right?
So if you find yourself playing a negative self-talk tape in your head. Just be aware of it. Accept it, say yes to it no matter what it says, tell it you respect it, but you are the boss and you are letting the idea go. Breathe it up through your nose and let it go breathing out slowly through your mouth. Do this for a few minutes and see how you feel. Your mind will become quiet. You will feel calmer and more in control.
Please remember ideas are just energy. You have the control all you have to do is learn how to use it and practice using it. We have guided meditation sessions on Friday nights from 7-8pm at Martin Acton’s Aikido Institute in Dromore, County Down, f you would like some help learning how to control your thoughts, feelings, and situation you can call, text or email to book a session Tel. 078-6940-2588. If you like this blog and would like more please check out our new website at www.martinactonaikido.com
until next time I wish you peace. love, and success. Martin Acton sensei