Kryptonite is a fictional material used in the Superman comics. It was the one weakness Superman had in his otherwise invulnerable being. So how did kryptonite effect, Superman? It drained him of all his superpowers, turned him into a weak, fragile and helpless creature. He was open to all the negative things in life, physically, mentally and spiritually. This happens to us also in real life. How? Well, your kryptonite is the negative way you talk. For example, expressions like:
I can’t, I don’t want…., I don’t like…., No!
You meet a friend and that person invites you to do something new together, that is a little out of your comfort zone.
“Hi, Jane! How about coming to a yoga class with me on Saturday at 7:00am?”
Jane panics and quickly replies “I can’t!”
Jane has no idea why she can’t but quickly invents an excuse.
“I have to bring my dog to the vet!”
Let’s be honest all excuses are just lies! Regardless of the motive behind the excuse.
You space out all day at the office. Your boss comes and asks you if you sent an important email to a special client. You didn’t, but instead of being honest and owning up, you make an excuse. Yes, I sent it but they didn’t get it yet, some technical problems with a server. The boss is not pleased with your answer. You dodged a bullet, now you have to scramble to get the email sent before you leave for the day. It takes time to look into the situation, to make sure you send the correct email to the right person. Now you will be late leaving.
Other forms of kryptonite are emotions we experience when doing things. Like fear, doubt, worry! When you start a project feeling fear, you are restricted from investing your best efforts because you are expecting to fail, or for something to go wrong or for someone to criticize the outcome. This is focusing on what you don’t want. The result is often negative.
You decide you want to lose weight. You nervously start a diet and it does not work. You blame the doctor, the author of the book you bought, or the person that introduced the diet to you. you actually gain weight because you feel bad and eat more!
So what can you do to deal with your kryptonite? First, think about the negative vocabulary,
Instead of ‘I Can’t’ first do it and then you will know if you really can or not! Excuses are cop outs. Everyone knows it sub-consciously, so stop making them. Take responsibility and say clearly yes or no. Be open and honest and people will respect you.
“I don’t want to be late!” what happens you are late! Change it to “I have plenty of time, I am always punctual!” The result will be you arrive on time.
“I don’t like rude people!” All your co-workers are rude, vulgar and aggressive.
Change it “I love polite people”. The result will be you will meet more polite, positive and helpful people.
When you are in a negative state of mind wait until you are in a positive state before starting a new project like losing weight. stopping smoking.
I want to share a story I heard from Doctor Robert Anthony.
A man lived in LA and every day he got up, got dressed and excitedly went to Santa Monica pier hoping to see the Statue of Liberty. He followed this procedure for years, always hoping to see the Statue of Liberty. The years went by and his enthusiasm dwindled and finally one day he arrived at the peer looked out and still could not see the Statue of Liberty. He broke down crying and was very upset. An elderly lady came to him and asked him what was the problem? He told her. She smiled well son, that is easy to fix. You are in the wrong state. The Statue of Liberty is in New York!
Until next time I wish you peace, happiness and success.
Martin Acton sensei