“We first make our habits, then our habits make us.”
Anything you do over and over again will become a habit. You decide if it is a good or bad habit. So first let’s look at the characteristics of a habit.
It is your constant companion that will be your greatest assistant or heaviest burden. It will encourage & move you onward and upwards to the hights of Heaven, or it will pull you down to the pits of Hell.
We store all our memories in our subconscious mind, that is where our wisdom, creativity & problem-solving capabilities reside. Our subconscious mind is also where our mental habits function. When we learn something using our minds the thing we learnt becomes automated, consequently we become skilled at it. These skills can be skills of stressing ourselves out, terrifying ourselves, depressing ourselves and becoming hopeless. These skills can also be skills of feeling ecstatic, empowering & motivating ourselves, that make us relaxed, more confident & hopeful.
Your subconscious mind is completely at your command, whatever it does it does quickly and correctly and is easy to manage. Just tell it clearly how you want things done and it will do it automatically. You just need to be firm when you make your command and let it get on with it.
A habit is your servant, that can make your life a walk in the park or a total misery. It does not care how your life turns out. To master a habit requires you take it, train it and be firm with it and it will lead you to success easily. Be easy with a habit and it will ruin you.
What habits do you have? Do you smoke, drink, gamble? Is there a habit you would like to change? I know many people that complain about not being able to stop doing something. The reason it is difficult is that the habit has formed and is doing what it is supposed to do. You are stronger than your habits, consequently you have the power to change them. At first it feels strange but that is because you are re-educating the habit and getting it to do things differently. Be gentle with yourself but firm with the habit. If you are smoking 60 cigarets a day and decide to quit now, it will feel different an hour from now when you feel like having one. Just tell your-self you don’t smoke. See your self as being a non-smoker. and do something to take your mind of smoking. Take a walk, drink some water.
I am an Aikido Instructor. When I was a teenager I saw myself as being a martial art Master. I watched the TV series Kung Fu and I pictured myself doing and being like the child actor. I held that image in my mind over the years. When I was 28 I found myself in Japan studying with the Masters. I made up my mind to become a Master and I did the things I had to do again, again and again and this has become my way of life. Now I am what I saw myself as becoming. You can do the same. Until next time
I wish you peace, love and happiness
Martin Acton sensei