Your relationships define level of your success

  • By Martin ACTON
  • 02 Jun, 2017
The quality of a family, group, organisation or business is determined by the quality of the relationships between the individuals. If you want to be the BEST in the world you need to build extraordinary relationships. Everyone has something they can teach you, so it is crucial that you do not have a condescending attitude towards others. Especially this is true of upper and middle management. Looking down on a person because he is doing blue collar work is unacceptable. The janitor is just as important in an organisation as the top CEO. Why? They both have roles that need to be filled in order for the organisation to run smoothly. If there were no janitors just think what a mess the place would be. In World class companies, the people know the names of each individual. For a Manager not to know the names of his staff is appalling and this person needs more training or to be replaced.

I met this retired gentleman, his name was Mr Sasaki he was the General Director for a very successful company in Japan. Mr Sasaki was a real powerhouse in business and his standards were platinum level. He never wasted a moment. Everything he did was focused, goal oriented and constantly on the lookout for ways to improve things. The thing that really impressed me about him though, was the fact that he knew the names of every person in his office building. And he treated every person as if he or she was the most important person in the Universe, not just the world. No one was insignificant to Mr Sasaki.

He taught me a very valuable lesson that I would like to share with you. The deeper your relationships, the stronger your leadership. Imprint on your brain the word HUMAN. This is a very useful acronym.

H. is for Helpfulness. To become a master and a true leader, always do more than you are
paid to do. Don’t just give lip service and go through the motions of serving others, really
put your whole self into what you do. This will make an impact that other will never
forget. Many workers are in a world of their own. They have become desensitised to
seeing the importance of customers and treat them casually, abruptly or ignorantly. This
is unacceptable in world class organisations. We should always be as helpful as we
possibly can.

U. is for Understanding. World class people are masterful at understanding people. This is achievable by developing the skill of listening deeply. Talk less, listen more! Make the other person feel that the world has stopped because you have a genuine fascination for what that person is saying. Give 100% concentration to what words are coming from the other person. This will make you stand way, way out from the crowd. Going the extra mile means to forget about what you want to say, to impose your thinking on others.Really listening to another person is the highest compliment you can pay someone. You honour a person by giving them fabulous listening. Everyone on the planet has a deep hunger to be understood.
M. is to remind you to Mingle. Get out there and connect with the other workers and network with your clients, customers and bystanders. People will always do business with people they like! Be out there making the people feel important, appreciated and
cared for. if they are looking for something, go and get it for them. take them to what it is they want. If you don’t have it try and find out when the item will be back in stock. If you don’t sell the item, recommend a place they can get it. This is real service. They will remember this experience and will not only come back to do more business with you, but they will tell others how great you are.

A. is for Amuse. Don’t come across as too serious. People like to shop to reduce stress to feel good and to forget their problems. Laugh and have some fun with the customers this is not wasting time or being unproductive. Actually, this will boost your productivity.
When you have fun the energy of the whole company raises to higher and higher levels. Stress goes down, fewer people get sick, attendance improves and people become happy.

N. is for Nurture. Be genuinely and awesomely nice. This shows you are a strong person. A lot of people mistake being nice as being weak. This is wrong education. Really strong people are balanced between being compassionate and courageous. Put relationships first! Be tender and tough. Always treat people with kindness and respect. Develop your relationships, smile, give a caring gesture and use positive words. Leave each person you come into contact with better, happier and more engaged than they were before they met you!

You will see soon that this way of living will really help your career and your life. If you really take care of people the money will come to you automatically. Help others to become super successful and they will do the same for you. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei

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By Martin ACTON 25 Jun, 2017
Expect winning results but do nothing, that is how most people go through life. To be a top world class athlete requires training and strengthening yourself to perform at extraordinary levels when you step up to perform. You need such internal power that you feel unstoppable, invincible and unbeatable, to face the relentless pressure and unpredictable changes that will try to destroy you. Michael Jordan is the best basketball player the world has ever seen. Was he born shooting baskets? No. He trained harder than anyone else to reach that level. How many people in business train hard before they go to the job?

A world class organisation consists of people that give personal excellence in all that they do. They perform at a first class level every day, regardless how they feel. They are committed to being the best of the best! Results talk for them, and they produce the results in a positive, fun and enjoyable way for all concerned.

As you and the other people you work with, come to understand that you have a natural born leader inside you waiting to be let free, you will start to perform at your best. When you all do your absolute best together, then your organisation will start and become its absolute best!

Illustriousness, greatness and eminence on the outside start from within. Before you unleash your peak performance at work or at play you first have to feel like you are doing that. You need world class mental toughness inside you, to face the competition and outclass them. To bring out the best in your co-workers you first have to bring out the best in yourself. You can’t lead others if you can’t lead yourself.

Decide to devote yourself to becoming so strong internally that you appear to others that you are failure-proof! Clean up your negative beliefs & false assumptions about the sort of leader you can become. Constantly strive to enrich your character, make your intentions purer and your actions better. Exercise to maintain a healthy body full of energy and radiate vitality.

To be the best of the best also requires you to clear up the emotional dimension of your life. You need to let go of the resentments you may be carrying and dump the baggage from your past. (If you give me 30 minutes I can help you eliminate the crap) This stuff is holding you back and preventing you from attaining your greatness! Also, a world class person works on his / her spiritual life, this is the connection to be polished so that you donate your best years at work to doing deeds that will last beyond your death. Life is over in the blink of an eye. We need to think about the legacy we leave behind, not on our death bed but NOW! That way you get to live your life backwards and make sure that it has a good ending. Instead of being on your death bed crying for more time! You have so much potential, wake up. This life is not a rehearsal. You are only here once and you cannot get the time back. So make the best of it. Get out of the coma. Realise what is most important in life. Actualize your potential, show leadership do your part to make the world better through the work you are doing and the person you are becoming.

At birth, you received fabulous talents, original insights to help improve things, and a corresponding responsibility to grow and express that genius over the course of your life. To elevate the lives of others around you in the process. Many people never figure this out and so they die unfulfilled. Every day you are alive, is another chance to push the envelope and stretch yourself to the maximum and to give everything all that you have. Hold nothing back. Then you can face the Creator and say I gave life, my all, with very few regrets. This is your gift back to Him. :) I say this is a smart way to live. What do you think? Until next time I wish you peace love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 13 Jun, 2017
You have one life to live and the free will to choice how you live it. It is important to remember this is not a dress rehearsal, you only live once, so why not decided that from today on you will do something every day to make your life and the lives of those around you better? Enjoy life and make each day a positive experience for everyone that you come into contact with. This will produce such amazing results for you that you will be amazed.

One thing I am going to do from now on is to stop finding other people's weak points. This is focusing on the negative and I have found it does not help to constantly tell people they are doing something wrong. From now on I am going to focus on the strengths and for one fault I see, I will try to find three things the person does well. If I can’t find three things to encourage the person I will keep quiet.

I would like to encourage you to become spectacular in all that you do, be it at work, at home or a play. Give your absolute best and you will succeed at whatever you put your mind to doing.

An extremely important question to keep asking yourself is “Who are you becoming as a human being?” The external things in life are nice but if you chase after the “bling, bling” only, you will end up an empty shell, lonely, and unfulfilled. By focusing on how you can contribute to improving things and helping as many people every day as you can, will result in you having lived a full, generous and fulfilling life, with no or very few regrets. That is a life lived well.

I would also like to encourage you to dream big and to practice visualising yourself as the person you most want to be. When we were children we loved to imagine things. I loved being a cowboy when I was four. Then a soldier, a police officer at ten. An action hero that could stop all the bad guys. Then I went to high school and was told to grow up and stop day dreaming. I stopped dreaming of things the way I wanted them to be and accepted that I was just an average “Joe Blow”. Then, fortunately, I left school, Northern Ireland and went to England, the USA and Japan. There I learnt to dream again.

I saw myself becoming a world class Aikido Master! I determined I would pay whatever price was necessary to bring this to pass. Consequently 29 years later I am the person I saw all those years ago. I work every day challenging myself and my students to improve our skills and I wake up every morning excited and full of anticipation knowing I will find a new technique or some way to help my students improve. Their growth and improvement gives me so much satisfaction. I love my job. I love my dojo and every one of my students. I want you to find your calling, purpose and meaning in life. So you can experience happiness, clarity of mind and inner peace. I believe every person on this wonderful planet wants to thrive. This means to be peaceful happy and successful. We were born to live! Not to just get by and exist.

Set your expectations high for yourself and others. Step up to the plate and put it all on the line. Hold nothing back, give it all. Pay the price for what you want, then you can be free to enjoy it. Don’t take the shortcuts, the quick easy way or the fast way. This will mess you up. Give more than is asked and let people know, you are the real deal, the genuine original you. When you give your word to do something then that thing will be done. Come hell or high water you will do it or die trying. This is a strong person and others will respect, listen to you and follow you on the path of life. Your conscience, sixth sense or your instincts will guide you. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success.
Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 06 Jun, 2017
Everyone feels self-doubt, nervous and afraid when they start new things. A key to getting over these emotions is just to feel the fear and do what you have to do anyway. Realise that to be a “winner” is nothing more than rising every time you fall. The only person who fails in life is the person who never even tries. That person lets his / her fear get the better of him or her. So they stick with their excuses. There is no shame in failing! Some of the greatest people in history failed many times but they kept getting up.
In baseball, the famous Babe Ruth struck out 1,330 times. Albert Einstein couldn’t talk until he was four. Beethoven’s music teacher said, “As a composer Beethoven is hopeless!” Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team when he was a sophomore.
One of the greatest American Presidents that ever lived failed time after time, after time but he kept fighting and moving forward. Have a look at his track record and see if you can guess who he was.
failed in business at twenty-two years old
was defeated for the state legislature at twenty-three
failed again in business at twenty-four
coped with the death of his sweetheart at twenty-six
had a nervous breakdown at twenty-seven
was defeated for congressional nomination at thirty-four
got elected to Congress at thirty-four
lost the renomination for Congress at thirty-nine
was defeated for the Senate at forty-six
got defeated for a position of vice presidency of the United States at forty-seven
Was defeated again for the Senate at forty-nine
Who was this man? It was Abraham Lincoln, he was elected the president of the United States when he was fifty-one.

So what can we learn from these people? Well, The lesson I got from looking at these people is that I have to go into my fears and I will shine. An amazing thing happens when you experience a situation that makes you insecure, scared, uncomfortable and instead of folding like a deck of cards, you stay strong, grounded and do the thing you have to do, you realise that fear is mostly a hallucination. Also, life will reward you for your bravery, because on the other side of the fear door you will find fantastic treasures, gorgeous gifts, that include confidence, wisdom, and personal growth. So go into your fear. Take it slow and steady and watch the success you want so badly start to show up when you need it most. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 02 Jun, 2017
The quality of a family, group, organisation or business is determined by the quality of the relationships between the individuals. If you want to be the BEST in the world you need to build extraordinary relationships. Everyone has something they can teach you, so it is crucial that you do not have a condescending attitude towards others. Especially this is true of upper and middle management. Looking down on a person because he is doing blue collar work is unacceptable. The janitor is just as important in an organisation as the top CEO. Why? They both have roles that need to be filled in order for the organisation to run smoothly. If there were no janitors just think what a mess the place would be. In World class companies, the people know the names of each individual. For a Manager not to know the names of his staff is appalling and this person needs more training or to be replaced.

I met this retired gentleman, his name was Mr Sasaki he was the General Director for a very successful company in Japan. Mr Sasaki was a real powerhouse in business and his standards were platinum level. He never wasted a moment. Everything he did was focused, goal oriented and constantly on the lookout for ways to improve things. The thing that really impressed me about him though, was the fact that he knew the names of every person in his office building. And he treated every person as if he or she was the most important person in the Universe, not just the world. No one was insignificant to Mr Sasaki.

He taught me a very valuable lesson that I would like to share with you. The deeper your relationships, the stronger your leadership. Imprint on your brain the word HUMAN. This is a very useful acronym.

H. is for Helpfulness. To become a master and a true leader, always do more than you are
paid to do. Don’t just give lip service and go through the motions of serving others, really
put your whole self into what you do. This will make an impact that other will never
forget. Many workers are in a world of their own. They have become desensitised to
seeing the importance of customers and treat them casually, abruptly or ignorantly. This
is unacceptable in world class organisations. We should always be as helpful as we
possibly can.

U. is for Understanding. World class people are masterful at understanding people. This is achievable by developing the skill of listening deeply. Talk less, listen more! Make the other person feel that the world has stopped because you have a genuine fascination for what that person is saying. Give 100% concentration to what words are coming from the other person. This will make you stand way, way out from the crowd. Going the extra mile means to forget about what you want to say, to impose your thinking on others.Really listening to another person is the highest compliment you can pay someone. You honour a person by giving them fabulous listening. Everyone on the planet has a deep hunger to be understood.
M. is to remind you to Mingle. Get out there and connect with the other workers and network with your clients, customers and bystanders. People will always do business with people they like! Be out there making the people feel important, appreciated and
cared for. if they are looking for something, go and get it for them. take them to what it is they want. If you don’t have it try and find out when the item will be back in stock. If you don’t sell the item, recommend a place they can get it. This is real service. They will remember this experience and will not only come back to do more business with you, but they will tell others how great you are.

A. is for Amuse. Don’t come across as too serious. People like to shop to reduce stress to feel good and to forget their problems. Laugh and have some fun with the customers this is not wasting time or being unproductive. Actually, this will boost your productivity.
When you have fun the energy of the whole company raises to higher and higher levels. Stress goes down, fewer people get sick, attendance improves and people become happy.

N. is for Nurture. Be genuinely and awesomely nice. This shows you are a strong person. A lot of people mistake being nice as being weak. This is wrong education. Really strong people are balanced between being compassionate and courageous. Put relationships first! Be tender and tough. Always treat people with kindness and respect. Develop your relationships, smile, give a caring gesture and use positive words. Leave each person you come into contact with better, happier and more engaged than they were before they met you!

You will see soon that this way of living will really help your career and your life. If you really take care of people the money will come to you automatically. Help others to become super successful and they will do the same for you. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 25 May, 2017
Give the best of yourself to others and you will get the best out of them. Many people live the opposite they get what they can out of others and then either give a little back or just simply move on. There are three ways to relate. The first is the “baby way” this is the take, take, take and take some more. The second way is “the teenager way” I will do something for you, as long as you do something for me, and it has to be the same value as the thing I did for you. Other wise I am not going to do it. The third way is “The mature way”. Here you put the other person’s needs before your own. You stretch your limitations and give the best of yourself regardless of how you feel. Which way do world class leaders relate?

What are we in business for? If you ask this question to ten different people you will get ten different answers. Some will say money, power, freedom, responsibility etc. My answer is it is all about people. An enterprise is a human venture that brings people together around a marvellous dream that inspires them to express their talents to the fullest and to contribute rich value to those clients or customers they serve. It is all about relationships and human connections. Many companies sacrifice relationships chasing after results. But the amazing thing is that the stronger the bonds between you, your co-workers and the customers you work for, — the stronger the results.

Regardless what business you are in, business is a vehicle to help other people.To engage employees so that they realise their human potential, and to help your customers achieve their highest aspirations. Business is about making money sure. I personally love money and all the fantastic things I can do with it, but when you deliver more value than anyone could possibly expect, the inevitable result has to be people beating a path to your door.

By doing good you not only find a deeper meaning to what you are doing but also the profits flowing to your organisation will blow your socks off. The more value you create for your constituents from co-workers to clients the more your organisation will see incredible financial success. All you have to do is treat people well and be as helpful in every possible way and success will be the inevitable result. Smart people keep it simple.

This is the best time is all of history to be alive! Why? The world is changing into a new time and way of doing things. The old ways are broken and don’t work anymore. We are entering into a completely new way of doing business. Making way for progress human growth and the ability for everyone to live the life of their dreams. If you continue doing the old ways you will suffer, fail and become extinct like the dinosaurs who couldn’t evolve as conditions changed.

If you want your company to become the best of the best in the world then you need to grow your staff and teach them to think and act in new ways to meet the changing times we are living in. If you want your brand to become a globally beloved brand you need to teach your people that relationships and people matter, regardless of position everyone wants respect and to be treated with dignity. We all have different ways we can contribute to making things better.

Every day we need to remind, motivate and inspire our people that to win you need to help others win! A part of this is doing all you can do to build a high-performance culture in your organisation. One where everyone knows how excellent he or she can be. As a leader part of your job now becomes unleashing the greatness in people who have never seen the greatness within themselves. You don’t have to be a manager or to have a fancy position to awaken the best in your co-workers and to have a wonderful influence on your company’s culture. Build platinum relationships, dedicate yourself every day to expressing your absolute best and making a fantastic difference in other human lives. If the people around you are engaged, excited and working at the highest level of their abilities, your organisation will excel not only in times of prosperity but also during days of hardships. Until next time I wish you peace, love and Success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 18 May, 2017
In this life we all have problems. No matter how rich, smart, or powerful a person is, we ALL have our share of problems. So if you can accept this as a fact of life, then you won’t suffer as much as you will, if somehow you think only you have problems.

If you face a problem you have several options. You can ignore it, worry about, or solve it.
Worrying and ignoring it will not work in most cases, so the best thing to do is to solve it.
As I have said before, if you get knocked down seven times, pick yourself up eight times. Persist until you succeed. Be bold, strong and commit to success, failure is not an option. Put your focus, attention and all your energy on your goal and let everything else just pass on by. Obstacles measure how badly you really want something.

The poor, the weak, the average person gives up as soon as they see a problem. The rich, the strong and the world class person never quit. Whatever comes good or bad they deal with it and get on with what they have to do.

The strong person responds rather than reacts when turbulent times come. Weak, poor people panic when something happens that they don’t like, want or know how to deal with.
On an average day, they arrive at work and waste all their time being reactive, confused and being part of the problem instead of rising above the confusion, showing leadership and finding the solution to the problem.

Make a difference starting now. From today when you go to work, make it a habit to stop reacting to challenges and become a Master at responding to them. Act with dignity and elegance when the pressures build. Focus on what you can do and don’t waste time worrying about the things you can’t.

Take the initiative. Just start things. Be a go-getter. Produce results while the others are standing like sheep waiting to be led. When it looks like all is collapsing around you, it is normal to feel fear. Just feel the fear and do what you can anyway. Keep moving. Stay calm your intuition will guide you if you listen and do as it directs you. You have the power, know how and ability inside just relax and let it out. Block out all the negative overwhelming distractions and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Success will turn up sooner or later. It is not up to you to decide when it will come.

To lead requires us to be uplifting and inspirational not necessarily with the words we speak, but combining our words and actions. Shine a light on the people you work with and remember everyone needs to be appreciated. Everyday encourage the efforts of others, look for the good and applaud even the smallest positive things you find in a day.

Most people who try to lead make the mistake of criticising and correcting others when they mess up. But this is not smart. A great leader is too busy applauding others when they do things right. A lot of people don’t know how to accept genuine praise. They very well may scoff at it, reject it abrasively or just try to escape from the situation. How the others respond is not of concern. Our main focus as leaders show be to offer sincere praise and to deliver it as best we can, and constantly look for ways on how to deliver it better in the future. Become a passionate celebrator of great work that your fellow workers are doing. Recognise, appreciate and praise excellence. You do not need a badge, title or others permission to do this. Just do it. You will transform your workplace, your co-workers and your own life 100 fold for the better if you apply these ideas. If you do this and somehow things get worse for some unknown reason. you still win because you have made good karma and this good karma can only come back to you.
Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 09 May, 2017
All setbacks carry with them an even greater opportunity. When a terrible thing happens a fantastic thing will soon follow. Every failure brings with it some wonderful gift that will make you more successful than you would have been if you had not experienced the difficulty. However, you must be focused on finding the opportunities and have the courage to keep going when the hard times come. “When it is darkest you can see the stars.” is an old proverb. Have you taken the time to look up on a dark night and to appreciate the beauty of the stars? It is magical like Disney Land. And it’s free.

Problems, hardships and challenges are simply platforms for even greater, brighter and extraordinary possibilities. The reality is no condition is “good” or “bad”. It just is. How we perceive it makes it so. This means that we have control of the perception. That is fantastic, isn’t it?

You may say when one door closes and another opens. What I am saying is that new door that opens actually offers a chance to bring you to an even more outstanding, remarkable place than the one you were at before you were knocked down. Struggle and setbacks have built the strongest and most powerful leaders. Adversity unleashes noble boldness in all of us if we permit it to.

Getting knocked down, bloodied and discouraged are just parts of the process of doing anything worthwhile, be it business, sports or life in general. We all face challenges that are part of life, like Tax and death. How quickly can you stand up, brush yourself off and get back into the fight makes the difference between the homeless person on the street and the multi-billionaire. Successes easily achieved are usually hollow victories that hold little or no real substance. You always feel much better, walk taller, and feel more satisfied when you have had to give your blood, sweat and tears to gain the most valuable victories.

Strong people look at obstacles as blessings in disguise. Helen Keller wrote
“We could never learn to be brave and patient if there were only joy in the world.”
It takes time and practice to think like that.

We all have bad days when our demons come and we feel hopeless, afraid and doubt we can do anything. Being honest about those times help us to have empathy for others that are also struggling, scraping by and suffering just to make a basic living. A secret to dealing with these negative things is to give words to them. As soon as you attach a word to your fear it loses its power on you. Joan Baez said it perfectly
“Action is the antidote to despair.”
Keep moving forward. In a difficult situation just stay in the moment. Keep making the smartest choices you can and keep taking as much action as you can. Act your way out of adverse conditions. Every single positive action must yield a positive consequence, even if you don’t see it immediately. This is a universal law.

Sometimes to be successful isn’t about making the correct decision, it is about making a decision. Then moving forward elegantly and quickly. Sometimes you will find that making no decision is a decision. Sometimes you will be blindsided and frozen in change just standing and letting it pass is a decision that works. Always keep going forward. The Japanese teach “ Get knocked down seven times, get up eight.” Even when you feel like hell and just want to curl up and die, keep moving forward. When you don’t even know if you are going in the right direction, keep moving forward. Forward motion has power! Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 02 May, 2017
If you want to be really successful you need to focus on doing great work and being world class at what it is you do. Top class performers produce results by developing a burning desire to give 100% to the work at hand. They are addicted to building exceptional organisations that offer extraordinary services and products to their clients and customers.

They are obsessed with growing, pushing the envelope and constantly looking for ways to improve in little increments. Compared to the mediocre people, or the company that does not care at all about the customers, which bombard them with too much information and too many choices. Top class performers focus on the needs and work smart at making sure their people are well taken care of.

Average people think about getting things done, regardless if it is correct or not. If there is a problem then someone else will fix it. Everyone passes the buck and very few if any put their hand up and take responsibility. They work aimlessly, running here, there and everywhere and achieving very little. It’s very easy to lose focus, to be busy doing things instead of being productive creating smart results. What is the use of investing valuable time, resources and effort into useless pursuits?

Top performers think constantly how to move from chaotic complexity to elegant simplicity. They don’t want to be wasting the three most precious resources time, talent and energy. They focus on doing the right things at the right time and real results. Top performers stay staggeringly focused on the biggest To Dos. They don’t let themselves be sidetracked with low impact activities but focus on the high impact activities. The results are always much better.

Cut away all the trivial stuff, use every moment of your time doing only the things that will produce the best results. Do fewer but better things. 80% of the results you produce come from 20% of your activities. Become exceptionally economic in your actions, do the few practices that generate the majority of your results and learn to do these really, really, really well.

If you apply these ideas to your life you will move away from days filled with stress and complexity to hours rich with productivity and simplicity. Unbelievably, because you will be doing fewer things much better, the result will be you will actually have more time. You can then use this time for your family, hobbies etc. Overall this will lead to a happy, fruitful and worthwhile life, and who does not want that right? Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
By Martin ACTON 27 Apr, 2017
To be a strong person does not mean to be rough, tough and in another person’s face. Words have power and they can really hurt and damage sometimes even more than a punch or a kick. So be careful what you say because you can not take the words back. No matter how many times you say sorry! The damage has been done. It may be forgiven but it will not be forgotten. Look back on a time someone hurt you, it may have been 30 years ago, but you can still remember it as if it happened a few hours ago.

A strong person uses his words to inspire the best in others and to motivate them to become even better. The world class leaders use positive, supportive and encouraging words that entice others to do spectacular things they would never have done in their wildest dreams. Look at what Mother Teresa, Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr. were able to accomplish with the power of their words.
Your words can lift a person into Heaven or put him into the deepest, darkest and terrifying pits of hell.
A person joins an exercise class he has never been to before, The teacher pushes him way past his limitations, shouting negative things to embarrass and insult him.”Push that leg into the wall, tighten this, breath deeply you are too …. stiff, hard, etc. In all my years as a teacher, I have never seen anyone as bad as you!” How would you feel if you were this student? He has paid for the lessons, do you think he will like class and the teacher? When and if he finishes the course do you think he will sign up again for new classes? Why do we abuse other people like this? This way of teaching does not produce positive results it only discourages and crushes the confidence out of a person. Then the teacher puts more pressure on by saying you have mental problems and need therapy. What kind of therapy is not said clearly. So the student falls into an even deeper state of confusion.

Yes be candid and say what you think and feel. But why not say it is a way that will build the person up instead or breaking him down.
A lot of business people talk too negatively. If a person is slow, makes lots of mistakes the leaders quickly judge and say things like “Why are you so stupid? I have been watching you and for twenty minutes you have been standing, looking at the items on this shelf instead of packing the items out. You better start doing a faster better job or I’ll ……… you!” Maybe the person was thinking how he could make the shelf better, to make it easier for people to find a product.
These people think that by talking tough that they will produce big results. Does it work? Maybe for a very short time. But soon the other person will quit, find a way to hide the problem or maybe turn and knock you on your condescending ass.

You will get what you want by speaking encouragingly, positively and patiently. Master communicators understand that it is all in the way you use the language.

Your own words also influence your own state of being as well. They determine how you feel. If you call a challenging situation a “disaster” this will generate a negative emotional response within you, compared to if you say this “splendid“. Your words say more about you than you may realise. You show others how you respond to setbacks optimistically or pessimistically. You are verbalising your beliefs. This drives your behaviour and in turn create all your results.

World class leaders are truly impeccable with the words they use. They don’t gossip, complain or condemn. You will never hear them swear! I listen to some people talk and every other word is f_ _ _ k. World class leaders make their best effort each day to only use words that engage, elevate and inspire, not only the people around them, but also themselves. Refine your vocabulary it can improve your life is so many ways. Using world-class leadership vocabulary will improve your energy level, passion for excellence, and the pace of innovation. Your words have an impact on the others around you. By using world-class vocabulary the whole culture of your organisation improves. Where your words go the energy flows! To become a world class leader you need to develop leadership vocabulary. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei www.martinactonaikido.com
By Martin ACTON 20 Apr, 2017
The world needs leaders that can lead by example, solve real problems and really take responsibility to get things done. Now is the time to either produce substantial results or to get out of the way and let new people do the job. We have enough talkers who produce nothing, then spend more valuable time justifying their lack of abilities and results. We need Action men and women, not more procrastinators.

As a leader in the present times, we need to think, act and to speak differently than other incompetent leaders. We really should speak less and act more. When we do speak our words should have the power to make other people listen, to inspire and motivate others. This can be done not by shouting empty promises but by speaking more candidly but with respect, simply and straight to the point. In changing, confusing and dark times it is so easy to hold back on candour and just ramble off at the mouth. Talking in vague generalities and saying absolutely nothing. Resulting only in prolonging the problems and causing more suffering, frustration and mistrust. We have to tell it like it is! Not give meaningless speeches that avoid confronting reality.

If a job is dirty, painful and needs to be done, the longer we procrastinate the harder it is to get it finished. No one likes this kind of work but somebody has to do it. For a business to succeed in the future the management needs their people regardless of position to be forthright, honest and to deliver the naked truth. This will be a pill that is hard for a lot of people to swallow but the results will be what everyone hopes for, that is to be able to trust and respect each other. To know that everyone is committed to giving their absolute best twenty-four seven. That we all behave with integrity and courage and to always know exactly where you stand. No hidden agendas. No backstabbing. No more rat race games.

To be a modern leader we have to step up and have the difficult conversations that the weaker and less competent shy away from. A modern new age leader needs to communicate in a way that is both direct and stunningly real. The truth does not need to be coloured. At the same time not be afraid to roll up their sleeves get down with the staff get their hands dirty and do the job together. If a leader can walk this walk all the staff will do the same and that will be a fantastic place to work and to do business. Face the difficult conditions and resolve them together as a real team.
A company will never become world class if its people are afraid to tell it like it is, to speak candidly and just live amid fantasy and delusion.

Talk and listen to the people in the company face to face. Never send an email when you can walk over directly and express your ideas, wishes and wants. This will make each person feel valued, important and probably get better results because if they don’t understand they can ask you. Spend time with your customers, add the personal touch. If you treat each customer as if he or she is the most important person to your company and make that person feel appreciated and that what he/she says is important. This will really have a huge positive impact on your business.

Share accurate information, hope and serve people in a friendly way. This is what you are paid to do. Remember you can say whatever you like as long as you say it with respect. Until next time I wish you peace, love and success. Martin Acton sensei
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